What do you do when someone’s words crush you? How do you handle your hurt feelings caused by someone else? When we have disagreements, there is some form of one of us thinking, ‘I’m not enough’ or ‘you’re not enough’ and the other one believing it. Here is how to eliminate these difficult feelings with just one step.
I woke up and didn’t want to get out of bed. It was just too much to take. I wanted to hide from the difficulties that were right in front of me. Although things were not that bad right now, I anticipated that things were going to get much much worse.
We can all be guilty of putting people in boxes. Some of it is normaland sometimes it is judgmental. Either way, it is a good idea to deconstruct the boxes we have put people in so that we can see all that they are and expose our judgments so they can be thrown away.
It’s a burden to carry around a grudge against someone
It is easier to let it go
Hanging on to it only keeps me in the past
I can move forward
I am free!
Our thoughts matter. Let’s look at how to tame your thoughts and put them to use for your benefit and for the benefit of others.
Our thoughts are, for the record, our own. They are like a mysterious puff of smoke here one moment and gone the next. They are silent, only coming into the world if we choose to share that part of ourselves with another.
Do your words matter? Do you want them to? Have you stopped to consider when to speak and when to be silent? Whether they matter will depend on many things. Let's consider the effect of our words.
What is the difference between ‘giving’ and ‘offering’? Let’s explore the differences and ramifications of giving vs. offering. What does your giving/offering or lack thereof say about you?
What you think about and believe in your mind is a critical piece to handling anxiety and depression. Although there is a very strong physiological component to depression, your ability to identify negative thinking and replacing it with positive and empowering thoughts will allow you to take a big leap forward in managing the effects.
Our minds have competing voices – physical, emotional, spiritual, parental, friends, society. These voices are as loud and influential as we let them be. Have you ever stopped to consider who is really speaking to you in your mind?
On April 20, 2015, I ran my first Boston Marathon. I cannot tell you how grateful I was to be part of this event. It lived up to all the hype. Along the way, I learned some important lessons that have nothing to do with running. They have to do with life.
‘Rich’ is not just about having money. You can be rich by having fulfilling relationships, good health, a satisfying profession, children, a strong faith, a positive attitude, hope for the future or love. Just as money does not fall into our lap, we need to become smart investors to become rich.
Recently I have opened up to the world and let then take a peek inside. I’ve posted things on Facebook (dare-ring!) No one has laughed at me or called me weird. You see, . . . the truth is, whether I show it or not, I am who I am, nothing more and nothing less. There is great freedom in being OK with myself, quirks and all.
In response to all the craziness around 50 Shades of Grey, I thought it more important and appropriate to write about 50 Shades of Red. Here are 50 ways to show love to another. I am talking about true and genuine love, not Hollywood’s erotic love which is limited, dysfunctional, and damaging to our minds and hearts. Let’s focus on positive and healthy ways to show love.
We hate to admit it but we all have limited resources. Our days are filled with activities and at some point we all need to go to sleep and rest. I refer to it as our ‘bundle of energy’. How do you decide how much energy you will give to each part of your life? Let’s be intentional about how we spend our days and use our talents.
FITNESS EXCUSES: Do you make excuses? I do. Do you admire other people’s lives and then make excuses for why yours isn’t the same? Do you want to accomplish something and then make excuses to yourself about why you can’t get it done? Let’s examine that
MARRIAGE AND CONFLICT: Have you ever blamed your life’s problems on someone else? Was it your parents or friends that caused you to behave in ways that have moved you to a place in your life that you do not like? This blog is designed to challenge your thinking and take control of your life.
PERSONAL DRAMA AND STRESS: Men and women are each given to a certain bent or disposition in how they handle life. Although we all know a drama queen or two, men have their own type of drama as they act on their insecurities and create chaos in the lives of those around them. Let’s explore drama kings and queens and recognize our own propensity toward the extremes.
BREAKING FREE: Are you stuck? Are you having a struggle in your life to which you think there is no solution? Has this been going on for too long but you just don’t know how to stop it? This blog is for you. You will learn to take the first step to becoming free from emotional paralysis.